The Last of Human Freedoms

Posted on October 22, 2010 by Ronald T. Brown, Ph.D.

“Everything can be take from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” (Viktor Frankl)

This fundamental truth cannot be dismissed. Though it may be a hard pill to swallow, unless we accept (at the deepest level) that we are 100% responsible for our lives, our potential will forever be held captive.  And a person will only experience the fruit of Frankl’s truth if they have taken the time to develop the disciplines of “Self-leadership.”

“Self-leadership” can be defined as the capacity and commitment to take full responsibility for one’s life by exhibiting the discipline and behaviors needed to realize their potential.  It is the antithesis of shifting responsibility for one’s happiness, satisfaction, or success to someone or something else.

** Therefore… How can a person increase their practice of Self-leadership?

1) As mentioned, the first step is to fully accept that you are 100% responsible for your life. While not denying the impact of the present or past on you – accept that you had a definite role in adopting whatever negative beliefs, attitudes, and self-concepts that may be imbedded in your life.  Choose to accept that your future attitude, emotional health, and success are a consequence of your own choices and behaviors.

2) Monitor your self-talk. Watch what you are saying to yourself. Negative statements (verbalized or thought) will only lead you into a life of despair and fear – while constructive and healthy thoughts lead to hope, belief and truth.

3) When faced with a difficult situation, consciously ask yourself, “What would it mean to exercise self-leadership right now?” “How should I choose my response in this situation?” Asking these questions will create the space to be proactive rather than reactive.

4) Deepen your self-awareness. The more you know about your own needs, values, talents and strengths – as well as your stressors and blind spots – the more you can create circumstances that work for you – not against you.

5) Actively dream and visualize the future you want. While taking action is the ultimate expression of self-leadership, visualizing the future you desire is a powerful way to increase your motivation and courage. We all use visualization already – for our minds are constantly creating pictures… so why not use these mental images in a proactive way?

** Self-leadership is not easy in a world where most people are driven by the pursuit of pleasure. But the ability to lead yourself is the key to living a life of personal and professional success.